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Thursday, December 27, 2007
I think it is security and love. A child must feel loved and and a sense of security around the parent. Love and security is not two, but rather one thing; because one cannot exist without the other. First, let me explain love. It's the most obvious yet most intangible thing. For parents, every act that they provide for the child is through love. Cooking hot meals, giving them baths, reading bedtime stories and even lectures or scoldings. If one does not love the child, one would not bother doing these things for him or her. If a parent does these things for the sake of doing them and not because of love, that too is good enough. The child feels loved and that is good; the parent has provided a loving environment for the child. As a child grows, ways of showing love changes; there is no longer need to bathe them or read them bedtime stories. But the same principles exist. If a child feels loved, they will feel a sense of security being with the parent. Here is a snag about security; it is not, as many people would think, congruent to 'safety'. Though many a times the two comes hand in hand, in my case, it is not so. Imagine a refugee family, faced with war and terror threats and on the run constantly. They cannot find enough food or shelter. No safety. These are all external factors that are beyond the control of the parent. There is nothing the parent can do about it. If they can, there would be no need for the vast number of charity organizations and endless debates about war that the world proclaims are helping these people. Therefore I feel that physical safety is not the one X factor a parent is responsible for. Security is just like love, it must be felt. The child must not be scared of the parent. They must look at home as a place that they can go to without having to worry what is going to happen. If the parent is a drunkard or drug addict or if the parents are constantly fighting, the child would not feel secure around them. That is when the parent has failed as a parent to the child. And that is the security the parent must secure for their children. Physical things are uncontrollable to some extent. The least a parent can do for the child is to give them the emotional protection they deserve and need. What the child gets, when young, is what shapes them in the future. As a parent, ensuring the right upbringing is the least. So do not blame your parents if they are poor, do not blame them if they cannot buy you the lastest gadgets on the market or bring you out everyday. Look at them, see the fatigue lines and white hair, and learn to appreciate what they have bought you using their many years of life-a loving and secure home. yidan left a note at 10:43 PM ***
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